I can't relate with lasers, but I certainly can with computers. I'm the local computer guy because I know computers... And yes everything that is computer related (hardware or software) gets brought to me.
The thing I've started doing is free labor, but parts cost money. I would simply tell my friend "The next time you break this, you're going to need to buy your parts. I might have some already, I might not. If for some reason I do though, I'll need you to pay me whatever I paid for these parts because they're not free"
It's unfortunate, but holding someone accountable for their actions usually makes them second guess their intentions. If you say "You broke this diode, which costs xx.xx$, and it's going to cost xx.xx$ to repair" you're putting it into a tangible value for them. Some people don't realize how much this stuff actually is... And some people do but just don't listen.
Then they might say "Well, you have a whole bunch" (hinting that you should give them one) my response would be "Yes I do, and I've paid for them all. They're not free, otherwise I'd have a lot more"
Should get your point across pretty clearly but not at all in a rude way.
If they ARE paying for your parts (After re-reading your post, it sounds like they are, but you just hate the amount of time it takes to fix their stuff), something I've done is basically a consultation.
I'd give them the parts they need, and make them do it while I'm there so I can show them WHY they keep breaking their laser. Honestly, the only difference between you and them is A: Experience and B: Education. If you give them both, the likelyhood that they're going to break their stuff again decreases.
Knowledge is power sir, and if you give it out, you'll save yourself a LOT of headache.
I don't have a computer business but I'm definitely the "computer guy" among all of my friends, family, and even at work (I work for RIM [BlackBerry]) people come to me with general computer questions even though we have a fully complimented IT support desk lol
Needless to say though - I don't just fix the problem - I show them what and how I did it when possible, so hopefully they don't need to bring the item back with the same problem again.
When they DO come back to me with the same problem, I hold them accountable in that I make them fix it on their own with my help; They learn that they have the ability to fix it themselves and they learn that THEY are responsible, not you anymore.
Funny how that works, but that's what I've experienced and how I deal with it.
As for the lens and being pushed into the diode: I'm not aquainted with Aixiz modules so I really couldn't say unfortunately.
Human behavior: I can help with. Aixiz modules, not so much
Now a quick question for you sir: Which one is you in your avatar? *Making the assumption that one of them is you*